Found out that husband was emailing another woman and iviting her out.?

I've been married for 5 years, have a 3 year old and a 2 month old. I just found out that my husband has been emailing another married woman who also has 2 kids. We were out of town for his sisters wedding and he left his cellphone behind and the hotel. I stayed in w/ the babies after the wedding b/c they were tired and he went to his sisters house for the after wedding party. I usually don't snoop but, lately my husband had been picking on me and starting fights w/ me at the drop of a hat; I kept asking him to tell me what was going on but he wouldn't. Well, since my husband has chatted w/ other women before while married to me, I decided to check his phone, and sure enough, I found some emails where he was asking this woman out to the movies, to a restaurant and even w/ her kids. I was obviously livid. I confronted him and he said that his problem is that he is addicted to watching porn online and he also chats w/ other women and has done it before b/c it makes him feel good about himself to be flirtatious. It angers me b/c the times we've been together as a family he's been messaging this girl through his phone. And it angers me that he says it helps his self esteem, yet I'm always second guessing myself around him and damaging my self esteem. He says the porn addiction has a domino effect in which he watches porn, masturbates, then doesn' t want intimacy with me, then that separates us physically and he knows it damages our bond and says thats why he chats w/ other women. I told him I didn't mind the porn b/c everyone does it, I just don't want him talking to other women, but be says he's addicted. Anyhow, now, the problem is, he's done this before, he's talked to other women through emails, has had profiles online and so forth. I don't know if he's physically cheated w/ someone else. All of his time is accounted for b/c we work in the same place and he goes home and so forth... but I also know that if someone wants to cheat, they will so I dont know if he has or hasn't... THe only reason I think to give him one more chance is b/c of our kids and how it'll affect everything.. but 95% of me wants to leave. I"m not sure and I can't be certain that he won't do it again. What do you all think? Is he just a creature of habit and will behave for 2 weeks and do it all over again?Found out that husband was emailing another woman and iviting her out.?
Having lived with a husband that was addicted to porn for 28 years I know how your self esteem is. Had I been smart I would never have stayed. There are men that want a good woman and will be good to you and appreciate you. From what you write he is only worried about how he feels not how you feel. I know that it is a hard place to be in but, remember it will also affect your children as they grow up. Sometimes things are found by accident and children snoop by nature. There are things that you just can't explain to a child. And you deserve to be treated with love respect and care. Good luck
If you want your children to grow up like him, stay with him. Don't be weak, dump this moron before he gives you AIDS.Found out that husband was emailing another woman and iviting her out.?
his type will; never changer really sad but true
Tell him to quit wanking to porn and calling other women or you're gone. He's probably already cheating- the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, and he's got a track record of fidelity issues.



If it comes up again, put his @ss out and change the locks. Life is FAR too short to be stuck with an emotionally void, philandering moron.Found out that husband was emailing another woman and iviting her out.?
ya, +1 on already cheated. Sorry, but being a guy I totally understand the cycle(s). There is probably a bunch of other shady things he's been doing behind your back, you just haven't found the dirt on him. Guys are sneaky like that and will come up with every excuse to make them think it's ok, hense; self esteem.



I know you have kids which makes this 100% harder, but he's just a cheating sleeze bag. Jesus said if you have lusted with your eyes, meaning you "truly" wish you could have sex with someone, you've already commited adultry. It's one thing to spank-it, but his disease is much worse than you can fathom.



Seek God for your answer and/or how you should approach this. My advise; he needs a whole lotta counseling before you two can move forward.
It's an addiction. Decide now whether you can live with that. I couldn't. I left a guy who drank. Others leave a guy who takes drugs. I wouldn't stay with someone who has a porn addiction. They need to fix themselves, but the relationship isn't generally going to survive it. You are like fifth on his list of most important things in his life, instead of one or two.
He is a liar and a cheater and he will keep doing this and will end up meeting one of the woman somewhere and start an affair, if he hasn't already. Amd he is esp cowardly and nasty by picking fights with you, he is a monster. The worst thing you can do is stay for the kids, kids are very perceptive and feel bad atmosphere, the best and only thing you can do is kick him out NOW and start divorce proceedings. You are in the drivers seat, he has to pay child support and alimony esp since he is the one who destroyed the marriage. This is not an addiction this is a very childish selfish lying sack of crap being horrible to his wife and kids. Get RID of him.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over again and expect a different result each time.
anyone who has good sex available to them anytime and instead prefers to get off by themselves to porn.. is addicted to porn, I have been told eventually they don't even want real sex, or can't even have real sex..if they get extremely addicted, sometimes physically unable to be excited by a real live person.. scary
First off...go get clipped. More children will further limit your options. Second, learn to get into and track the family cell phone service. He can't arrange liaisons without communications. Third, get a handle on every penny that he makes and where it goes. No liaison happens without someone picking up the check and that is normally the guy.



You now have to create your next option. That might mean going back to school and tolerating a cheating spouse while you get your (economically viable) degree. Real Estate has kept bastions of housewives and ex housewives in beans and biscuits for decades now. While going to school, study the divorce laws, alimony laws and child support laws of your state. When the day of reckoning comes it needs to be a huge hammer that hits, wounds and kills.