I think my girlfriend is about to break up with me, should i buy a plane ticket to visit her? or i am wasting$?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half. It has been a great relationship so far, like the kind that ends with marriage. She graduated and went off to grad school 400 miles away to get her PhD, and is starting her 2nd semester. I am finishing my bachelors and plan to move closer to her when I graduate. We have been working a long distance relationship, and I tried to find ways for us to spend time together even though we are apart, like playing dominos online while we each study, or doing yoga together over skype, and of course phone calls. We see each other on holidays and when she comes to visit family and its just like old times.



About 2 weeks ago i sensed a change in her, she doesnt call me as much, she doesnt answer when I call, she hangs out with friends from work and is always quick to mention all the girlfriends of her all male coworkers who she is going to hang out with, even though I don't ask. I also noticed that she used to call me to vent about her day and get some empathy, but she seems disconnected lately. I think she may be spending more time with one of her male coworkers than she leads on, no cheating though, not yet anyway.



I have seen these signs before and it was right before I got dumped. Ouch! So I am trying to prepare myself mentally for a breakup. So this beg the question:



Question:

Valentines Day is coming up, should I drop $400 on a plane ticket to go see if i can save this thing, or send Roses %26amp; Chocolate and wait a bit longer to see if I am just paranoid about this whole thing. By the way, I plan on visiting her anyway for spring break in march for a whole week instead of just a weekend(valentines day).



Thanks for your help and sorry for the long description.I think my girlfriend is about to break up with me, should i buy a plane ticket to visit her? or i am wasting$?
You know, trust your instincts. If there seems to be something off, you're probably right.



I think before you hop on a plane to visit her, you need to ask her. Explain the vibe you're getting, and express your fears. Tell her you're willing to drop the $400 to come see her if there are things that you guys need to work out.



Make sure you don't come across accusatory, though. This is all just a hunch right now. Do a lot of "I feel ... " sentences.. But, jumping on a plane to see her isn't going to fix an underlying problem.



Be honest. Talk it out. Good luck.



(BTW, great relationships don't END in marriage. ;) )

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